JoAnne: My mom. Now let the Hanbokers all shut up and go home.
JoAnne: My mouth just gapes open, really. So many people in this drama treat Bi Dan as though she were an ACCESSORY, something that can be handed off once the season is past. She's not a pet, for crying out loud. She's a child! With a mother who loves her, who she loves and needs!
JoAnne: Oh go stick your head in a toilet, you shrill bag of wind. First of all, I hate watching people debase themselves in this manner. It doesn't make me pity them. It makes me loathe them. Second of all, she's not a BURDEN she's a CHILD. Oh I hate you I hate you I hate you. Fuck off.
JoAnne: Nobody ever works. Ever. They get dressed and go to the office but they don't work. I want a job like that. But make it one where I don't have to get dressed and go to the office, either.
JoAnne: And once again I slam RIGHT up against that great big plexiglass window dividing Western Individualism and Eastern Confucianism. Because my immediate reaction to someone telling someone else that I'm not going to keep my child, adopted or no? Laughter. Followed immediately by 'make me' Oh, I am mad. How DARE she.
JoAnne: I was thoroughly confused by the conversation that started with 'I could forgive you anything but this!' followed by 'Why do you keep disappointing me?' and closed by 'of course I love you I will always love you.' Ummm...
JoAnne: I knew he'd come around but I was disappointed that there was an around for him to come. I wanted him to be perfect.
JoAnne: I hate that Jae Hee has some valid points, but I diverge from him at the point where those thoughts lead to Bi Dan having to leave her family. #1 Everyone has suffered from Min Jung. You are not a special snowflake. #2 Then that will be the price you pay for letting well-dressed tang lead you around by the nose, sucker. #3 It's not actually about 'need' in this case, you heartless bastard. #4 He didn't know, therefore, kind sir, thy panties, they must untwist.
JoAnne: Plus, when the contest was announced, it was about the death clothes. Which the yongbo isn't part of. Then Min Jung made her dastardly announcement of evil villainess planning, claiming that whoever has the yongbo wins, and suddenly everyone is all about the yongbo. Y'all can just say no to her, you realize this, right?
Min-jung meets Bad Dad at a hotel: it's time to talk about that child. Min-jung says she will raise it, please don't take it away from her. He asks where the money will come from, and she asks for him to pay for the tuition fee "at least" and breaks down fake-crying. Oh, but then comes Jae-hee! Bad Dad called him. When he hears that Min-jung wants to raise the kid, he snort: so this is about child support? For a child that doesn't even exist?
JoAnne: SO perfect. So PERFECT. Perfect perfection.
(Perfect!) Now she can concentrate on raising Bi-dan. Oh yes ..... he knows. Min-jung (where does Lee Yu-ri learn how to cry in so many different ways? She really gets better and better!) is certain that BaDIL told on her and vows that they'll die together.
JoAnne: Really? I think she's been laying it on a little thick lately. But I still love her. In an 'I really hate you' kind of way.
Min-jung wolfs down tons of food in the kitchen in front of Dumb Mom, still pretending she is pregnant. She then goes and packs her bags, claiming she'll stay at Bi Sool Chae until the competition, since there's so much to do (yes, she is still to take part in that competition, because a Head Seamstress must be chosen!), She looks briefly at the (fake?) yongbo and then longingly at a picture of her and Jae-hee. At the door, she turns around with tears in her eyes, telling the empty house she just wanted to eat one meal that Dumb Mom made for her, just once. She bows and leaves.
JoAnne: That was very, very creepy, until it got sad (YES!). I mean, not that I feel sorry for her except...well, I guess maybe I do feel sorry for the tiny tiny sane person trapped inside her completely wacked out brain? A lot of the time I think she believes her own justifications and that horrifies me, because it means that her pain is real.
JoAnne: I am so glad they finally made that clear. It was really ambiguous, and it absolutely detracted from my ability to enjoy the story. I felt like I was missing a big chunk of the motive.
JoAnne: My heart is breaking. To ward off evil, every time Bi Dan cries I either text my daughter to tell her I love her, or I send her a funny picture, or I call her. It makes watching these episodes take a really long time but I have to keep the universe on an even keel.
JoAnne: May children playing in the street knock the side view mirrors off your car on a monthly basis; may children running on the sidewalk knock you down and spill your coffee nearly every day, and on the days you don't have coffee, I hope you tear your pants and skin your palms. And finally: Any time you walk through the park, may children shouting startle a flock of birds into the air, prompting them ALL to shit on you in unison. Every single time, Jae Hee. Every single time.
JoAnne: He can drink Bier and eat some Chäs.
kakashi. I'll teach him to yodel and play the alphorn. And then, we'll go skinny dip in the Lai da Rims.
Didn't he try, in the very beginning? And when Jae Hee was not interested in listening, didn't he say ok, you'll find out on your own? But Moony says he was afraid Bi-dan would get hurt. A bit too late for that, no? Jae-hee tells Moony to take Bi-dan and disappear (I'm losing count of who tells whom to take Bi-dan and disappear, but that's at least the third time this happens). But Bi-dan has committed no sin - to separate her from Bori would be too mean. Ah, maybe he needs to tell Bi-dan who her mother is? says Jae-hee. HATE YOU. But yeah, he has a point about Min-jung potentially using Bi-dan as a "weapon" against him. He doesn't seem to realize that this is HIS FAULT because he married her. Despite of all the warnings he received. IDIOT.
JoAnne: SHE IS NOT LUGGAGE.
JoAnne: Let's put it this way, Writer. If Moony or Bi Dan suffer a bad ending, no, if they suffer even the HINT of a bad ending... if they get within a hangnail's WIDTH of a bad ending... your entire drama will be ruined. And I will trash it to everyone I know. Over and over again, forever and ever, amen. Plus I will claim that you hate good men and secretly have a sick interest in torturing kittens and small humans and no one should ever go look in the shed in your back yard, say. Or poke around in your garden.
JoAnne: Is that basket wearing a Disney Princess costume?
JoAnne: I LOVE that Bori never loses sight of the fact that her mother is way more interested in exposing other people than she is in being exposed herself, and that doing the one doesn't forgive the other.
JoAnne: Exactly. Bori has a good life. And would have told you that her life was pretty good (and believed it) even when it WASN'T good. Because Bori is a positive person with a happy soul, and she concentrates on the millions of minutes that are fine, not the few that are not.
But BaDIL doesn't care if her daughter hates her. All she wants is for Bori to win the competition and take Bi Sool Chae. That's the last thing she can do for her as a mother. And out she pulls the yongbo and tells Bori to throw it into the fire. Of course, Bori refuses to do this (yes, she is much better than this and will not use the same lame tricks her mother resorted to so many years ago). And as they fight, Min-jung sneaks up to them and rips the yongbo from Bori's hands. Now she knows: BaDIL was never on her side. But she will WIN. The one that was never loved.
JoAnne: Did she actually for one second think that BaDIL was on her side, once things started unravelling? This must be another instance of that strange belief we see in Asian dramas all the time: If I force you to do a thing, and you do it, then it must mean everything is ok now, right?
JoAnne: Why does no one call those little shrews on their bullshit? It's not exactly a secret that they're mean to the girl! And I 'm so GLAD Little Kang didn't end up with Ga Eul because she has turned out to be entirely hateful.
JoAnne: Oh well. Them's the breaks. Deal with it.
JoAnne: No, it's not to stop him from doing that. It's because they said it wouldn't matter if he did, because she'd still be part of the family, just living in a different house. The only way Bi Dan isn't part of the family is if Bori and Bi Dan leave the family, so that's what Bori is offering to do.
JoAnne: I think she thinks she loved him. I know he loved her. Also: man, divorce is QUICK in Korea.
(I thought she did.)
JoAnne: Do these people come from another planet? Do they not get the concept of 'child'? Why was HER child so precious, but no one else's? That's what I 'd like to ask Dumb Mom. Isn't Bori exactly as human as he is?
JoAnne: Yes, that's how it is. Also, so much bullshit on the 'leave Bi Sool Chae' part. The only one who they'd make leave is MinJung. Well possibly BaDIL. But Bori? No way, never. Unless by 'leave Bi Sool Chae' they are strictly talking about the business, and not from the home itself.
JoAnne: In the words of those wise ancients, The Stones: Get yer yongbos out! Sort of.
CommentsMin-jung may have switched the yongbos again at the last minute, but there is NO WAY that GooDIL doesn't know which is the real one and didn't check that before the competition. Right? Or is that too much logic for this show? I think they either had Min-jung switch the wrong one (i.e. she initially stole the right one and GooDIL did a very smart thing to get it back) - or there is a third version. One that Bo-ri made. Or the Master Artisan cannot tell because GooDIL has become so good?
JoAnne: What exactly does any of this prove? We know GooDIL had the real one 20 years ago, because she called Halmeoni before the accident. So if she has the real one now and Min Jung has the fake one, it seems logical that Min Jung is trying to pull a fast one. Except she KNOWS this... so if she has the fake one why would she continue? And if Min Jung has the REAL one, then clearly it was obtained in a shady manner. And she KNOWS that they know this... so why would she continue? Is the show going to spring TWO real yongbos on us? We think that's not possible, right? So is the show going to spring two FAKE ones on us, with the real one hidden away forever? Either way, it renders the whole thing moot. SO WHY BOTHER?
Much more important though is Bi-dan. At this stage, I still don't know how they will solve the Bi-dan issue. I guess Bad Dad will accept Bi-dan again, since he does love her and isn't a bad person at all. (He tries hard with his limited emotional intelligence, and like many men he has mellowed somewhat as he ages.) I understand that he might need some time to come to terms with this situation and I think that's normal, too - NOBODY would want to be near anything related to Min-jung. The one that needs to come to terms with things too is Jae-hee: he is in fact the biggest problem at the moment. His fear that Min-jung might try to entice him again through Bi-dan is unfounded. She could never do that. Hasn't Bi-dan be added to the Lee family registry a while ago? Get your frigging act together, Jae-hee! This is a child!
JoAnne: Do you think she was? I am not so sure. I foresee a hugely emotional climax with Bi Dan being formally accepted as various assholes get redeemed, all capped off by the ceremony of adding her to the registry and making a big deal of it so the poor little thing really believes that she has a forever family who loves her and will not throw her away or think of her as trash.
JoAnne: As a human being, I agree with you. As a mother, I insist upon this.